just keep going over to her aunt house for practice. And if she does cry just remember she will be ok. it is so hard but is won't last forever

TTC #2      1st July bfp- 2nd try Aug bfp-3rd try 9/1 ???
Connor born april 2005

My middle son was like this for the first 18 months. He wouldn't go to anyone except my husband and myself. One of my husband's brothers, who could pass for his twin, could sometimes get away with holding my son, but as soon as he realized it wasn't dad holding him, it was all over.  Turns out, it was just his personality. He's very bright and has never enjoyed socializing a whole bunch. He's very polite to others and has no social disorders, he's just very independent and not a people person. 

When he was little, we continued to take him places, but never forced him to interact with anyone. It upset his one grandmother very much. My take on it was he needed to go to people on his own terms and in his own time. Forcing him to allow other to hold him just seemed traumatic and cruel. Over time he did become comfortable around immediate family. And now, at nine, he's comfortable around distant family and strangers. Just a couple weeks ago we were at a family function and my husband's cousin commented on how much my son had socially bloomed. He said he remembered when he would scream at averyone as a little guy and how he would hide and stare at poeple when he was a little older. And now my son just walked up to him and said, "Hey Mike what's up?", and they had a 20 minute conversation. 

On the flip side my 9 month old lets people pass him around like a party favor and has since he was born. Friends, family, complete strangers, he doesn't care who's holding him. My oldest has seperation anxiety for a short period around 4 motnhs old. She got over it on her own. She's a social butterfly.

Every child is unique. You just have to wait and see what kind of person she'll blossom into being.

Arden has always been like this too, even to her poor father to a large degree.  The only people she "liked" was her Mother and I and of course she preferred Mom.  Any photos of them visiting family ALWAYS have Mom in the picture - never just Arden and other relatives.  She has slowly gotten better over time and like you the family doesn't all live close to constant exposure wasn't really an option she just had to grow into it and on her own time.  I can ALMOST definitely assure you that she will be fine with your Aunt once you are not in the room with them but I too would definitely do as much "practice" with her as you can.

Sassy is growing up way too fast for her Mama...

She still SEEMS innocent though...

But look how little she was...